Lesbian Wedding: Dress Hunting

Dress hunting should be one of the best highlights of the wedding experience. You're also suppose to grab your best girlfriends, sisters, mom or whoever, to go with you. Well I chose to go a completely different route! Not say I wouldn't have like to include all of those wonderful people in my life like those I mentioned above, but they would all of very different opinions about everything. I thought if I included them all I would have more problems then what I started with. Plus I was a little nervous that with so many people my fiancée would ultimately see the dress and that was a big no no! So I went only with my Wedding Planner. I knew she had a good understanding of my personality to help me nail down the perfect dress.

Yes I know you may be thinking dang how could she not include her mom at the very least. Well to answer that: 1. My mom lives in Texas 2. She's still trying to wrap her head around this wedding 3. I know her ideal dress is something traditional and this wedding is already FAR from traditional. Given those reasons it was not that difficult of a decision. I did send her my top 3 picks to take a look at for her to have some idea of what I was going for.

Now back to this dress. I had to find something that SCREAMED my name something that made you look back twice. Though I found some dresses that were amazing and looked beautiful on me, they were at the same time a little more traditional than I wanted. Finally I tried on a Vera Wang design that was simply stunning. It took my breath away looking at it in the photo album. You will all have to wait to see just what dress I decided, however, if you are looking at any of her designs see if you can guess which one I chose!

If you are married what style did you go for Traditional or Fair From It? Comment below with your style!

BTW stay tune for "Lesbian Tuxedo Anyone"

Occupying....

Apparently Occupy Wall St has some initiatives I was unaware of!

10 Reason Women Love Women

Every so often people ask me why I like women. Every time, I ask why do you like men. Usually they can never return a direct answer other than I love the sex or the, you know what. I have to stay if that’s the only reason they can think of that's sad! Yes, I agree sex can play a major role in a relationship, but to say that’s why you need a man doesn't really justify anything, especially when you have never experienced sex with a woman. I joke with my straight girlfriends that if they ever did it just once they may think twice about sex with a man.

Beside the 3 letter word I wanted to explain just what else attracts women to a woman:

1. A women’s touch is definitely at the top of the list. In the words of Alice from the L Word 'you touch me here and I feel it everywhere'.

2. Her lips. Not only are they soft, but the caress they brings take away my breath.

3. Respect for my body. She's gentle, but knows when to take it up a notch.

4. She's not afraid to cuddle!

5. There is something adventurist about her eyes and her smile. She looks at you and you feel like the world is revolving around you guys alone.

6. The way she protects you, holds you and cares for you,

7. She goes out of her way to make me happy.

8. Some love the femininity while others like her settle since of style, she's neutral. Though, her curves are to die for.

9. She listens with pure compassion

10. She communicates with me and we are equal.

So I'm sure you are wondering what’s the underlying difference as to why Women like Women or Women like Men, right? To me there is not much of a difference. We all look for some of the things like I have mentioned above in a partner. As much as I hate to say it I truly believe most don't step outside of their social norm and will never explore the same sex because of it. There are not many differences in gay/lesbians or straights when it comes to finding love. Some women find it in a man while others like me find it in a woman. For me I only look for it in women because of the attraction I have for them and the feeling I have when I and with a woman. I don’t get that tingly feeling with a man. Women are simply gorgeous and my fiancée in particular puts every piece together for me! Again I have to say if it’s only the sex that keeps a women going to a man then they should honestly rethink their situation because you can definitely get that any person in general. And no I’m not saying this is the case for every straight woman, but I am pointing it out that I have heard much too often!

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Queen's Lola Lounge

Sometimes it can be extremely hard to leave the Manhattan borough, especially when you know no matter what happens you can easily find a place to retreat with lesbians and still have a great night. After much talk about the lesbian scene in Queens, NY from friends, my fiancee and I had to go. One thing to note first is, Lola's Lounge is only truly dedicated to lesbians on Saturday nights which they call "Girls Go Wild" (really not sure if I like that name). They do have other nights for lesbians, but Saturday is the primary day. Before we even walked into the building we knew this place was different. My fiancee is Dominican and we always see a variety of lesbians in Manhattan night clubs, but at Lola's Lounge it was clear that more than the majority were Spanish. Apparently the Lesbian Spanish community is rich, vibrant, and clearly VISIBLE in Queens. Honestly, I never would have thought.

If you think I'm wrong please go to Lola's because you will experience something a little out of the ordinary that you typically wouldn't see in Manhattan. The crowd by age was a pretty equivalent to my own (I’m 24). I feel like it was a 50/50 mix between early 20's to early/late 30's, which was great for someone around my age. In some places I have been to I can definitely say they appeal to even older crowds, like Henrietta Hudson. Overall great impression and it was a good feel to be in a different scene.

So what were the positives vs. the negatives??

Positives:
1. Music. It was a great mixture of bachata, reggae and hip hop. Although there was a slight interruption due to a 2005 Spanish awards idol trying to take the stage. Note to Lola's don't let people come in that think they are famous take the mike when they are obviously drunk.

2. Huge space. Most places in NYC are small and cramp. This floor had enough room for everyone. They also had a nice section for group seating.

3. Entertainment Area. This included flat screens to watch the games, pool tables and an outdoor area for the summer. I didn't try the food, but I hear it amazing too. There are also plenty of hookah's to go around.

Negatives:
1. Location. Yes I agree that you need to spread the wealth on the location of lesbian clubs. However, I guess I'm being a little selfish when I say I wish this place was in Manhattan, but it would also be wrong to take a great lesbian night club from the home of others. So this one I'll let you guys be the judge of.

2. Capacity limit. They seemed to hit their capacity fairly quick probably around 2:00am. Keep in mind people don't usually go until after midnight anyway. It didn't seem packed at all. Like I said before the space was great for dancing and it wasn't even near to the point of overwhelming touches.

3. Drink Prices. Some think the drink prices are great. I on the other hand think that $9 for a cranberry & vodka with limited alcohol is not worth it, maybe $7. But no matter what people are going to buy it.

So there you have it, make a judge call based on what you are looking for. I think this place is worth a shot to experience if any of the above interested you. Happy Searching!

~ TalkLesbian

How we decided the DATE for the BIG DAY??

Wedding Date Much

I wanted to come back to everyone with an update. A couple of you were asking when the wedding is taking place. I really thought I posted it, but if not the date is September 8th 2012. If you are thinking that’s fast, YOUR RIGHT. If you are thinking we are rushing is, YOUR WRONG. Since we got in engaged early this year we really had to way our options as far as the date was concerned. We thought we would definitely need to wait until next year just to have enough time to plan.

However, waiting until next year really meant around May, since this is obviously when it's warmer. Neither one of us want have the wedding during the winter months and in the north everything from October to early April is still cold. So the questions was did we want to wait about a year and half to get married, NO.

Then we thought about this year since we were still early in the year. We starting think about the end of year but, again these are winter months so November and December were a no go. Not only would it be cold but, also these are major holiday months for our families. Then there was October, absolutely not happening during my birthday month. So we got to September, surprisingly this the one month with no significant events, however there were some birthdays weekends we wanted to avoid so finally we came to the conclusion of September 8th!

That was a crazy long story of how we decided the date, I know. You really don't think of all the things surrounding the date until you are actually doing it. If any of you are thinking of your special date please consider the things I did and if you have other things to keep in mind share them.

Dinah Shore LAS VEGAS Style

If you are NOT attending Dinah Shore in Palm Springs coming up at the end of the month maybe Dinah Shore in Las Vegas will be more worth your while. Let's not forget Vegas is already the center of attention when it comes to entertainment. The Events are going to be just as amazing and yes there will definitely be a pool party. This pool party will take place in a Flamingo pool, interesting enough. Let's not overlook the Go-Go dancers that will be in the house. Last, but certainly not least, what would Vegas be without a poker tournament; so come with your A game and ready to play. 

Deaf Lesbian

We have all watched the L Word. So we have all seen a how difficult is can be for a non-hearing person to communicate in a relationship. I wanted to bring this event to your attention if any of you know someone that is a Lesbian and Deaf. It's important to remember that Lesbians can in all types, shapes, and capabilities. It can be very difficult for someone to find a place where they feel comfortable to be who they are and to communicate effectively around others. The 2012 Deaf Lesbian Festival will be taking place in Chicago for the first time during July 18th - 21st. The event will host workshops, socializing activities, and a whole list of entertainment. Support the community and pass it along to anyone you think would love to hear about this!

http://deaflesbianfestival.org/

- TalkLesbian