Why Did We Get Married??

To me it was simple, for her not so much.

My Family

In my family it’s natural to find someone you love and marry them simply because you're in love and want to spend the rest of your life together. Making a commitment to love each other no matter the circumstances can be difficult and yes it will take two people who want the same things in life to make it work. It's frown upon in my family to have children out of wedlock. Believe me, I know in this day we see it more and more, but that is a traditional aspect in my family that I enjoy. For me it gives me a sense of family.

Her Family

They don't typically get married. Though her grandparents were married and actually had 16 children together, it’s not frowned upon if one were to not get married. Her parents, in particular, were never married. Let me rephrase that, it's not frown upon if they don't have the paper work to prove they are married. They will often live with someone for long period of time (say even 10 years) and even have children with them, but never marry, although everyone will consider them married. However, we have noticed some eventually leave the relationship after sometime. To put this in a simple way they just don't really care to much about actually getting married to someone, I think some would say the paper work is actually too much of a hassle especially if they aren't sure they will spend the rest of their life with them. Don’t get me wrong there are some in her family that seem to be committed to each other, but there are some exceptions

Our Family Together

My wife was not particularly into the idea of getting married. In some ways surprised me because I didn’t understand why someone would not want to get married, coming from my background. We definitely had some interesting conversations around why people get married and why it important to me and not to her. Not to go into full detail regarding her thoughts around marriage, but in short many people in her family have gotten married to come to the United States. Her whole concept of marriage was flawed by marriage being a means to of entry. Whereas for me, it’s a means to expanding your life and family with someone you love. Either way after consideration on both parts, we decided that marriage was the right path for us. It signified our love in a different light and gave our families an opportunity to experience our love. For both of our family’s gay/lesbian marriage has never been seen. We didn't do it for them; we did because we knew that for our family it would be important to show our commitment to our relationship and our love that will continue to grow.

So Why Did We Get Married?

1. We fell madly in love and wanted to strengthen our bond with an everlasting commitment.
2. For the family that we are creating it’s a foundation and place to lay down roots for generations after to look back on.
3. It's our life and it’s our relationship, it’s not anyone's place to say whether or not it makes sense in this world to marry.
4. We wanted a unity for our children that brings two loving parents together that hopefully they will be able to embrace in their future
5. The love we share is indescribable. We have no more words to explain it. We have no more ways to show it, but by doing what feels natural to us and that was to seal our love with a KISS.

Take a look at our videos on youtube, at LesTalkBian

Lesbian Chicas: The After Wedding Get Down

Lesbian Chicas: Married Life

Our Lesbian Wedding Diary : Slideshow

Finally we are slowing down and I have just created a wedding video. I did it pretty quick, but I will make another soon and one with our engagement photos soon. Thank you everyone for your love and support it was an amazing day, we felt and still feel very fortunate to have meet each other and to be able to share our journey of life with all of you. I hope you ENJOY the video <3.

Our love makes me Smile so hard my cheeks hurt :D

Wedding I Do's

Yes it has been quite some time but, that is all because I'm HITCHED now! As of 9/8/2012 I am a married woman and it feels great. Months of planning for a 5 hour event was exhausting but all worth it! 

Quick recap we were married at City Hall Restaurant in Tribeca, NY (if don't know NYC that is right next to the World Trade Centers). Small wedding about 55 attendees. A wedding planner who was amazing. A photographer who was well... amazing too! All in all these people made our night the more that we could have ever imagined. We felt really honored to be around so many family and friends that loved us for who we are. We will create a YouTube video by this weekend to recap everything, but until then I have attached a couple of teaser photos I got. Our Youtube name is LesTalkBian.

The DRESS

Finally a glimpse of the dress ladies this was my most well kept secret! Official photos coming soon and I will be back to writing this week. The wedding was amazing and thank you all for your support! We will be posting a new video on YouTube tonight on our channel Lestalkbian.

Rejection Can Be Deceiving

How many times have you attempted to ask a girl out and either chickened out or were rejected?

How many times have you looked at her all night wondering is she gay or straight?

How many times have you actually approached a straight girl who was curious, so played into, but later rejected you?

I could go on and on about the different situations that lead to a rejection. For me, I was never one to approach a girl. I would much rather she come up to me rather than taking a chance and potentially humiliating myself. However, once and just once before I was completely out of my dark closet, I actually told a girl I liked her, who we will refer to as CJ. Now I clearly thought without a doubt CJ was a lesbian. I mean I swear I thought I saw all the classic signs a lesbian girl. The way she dress and the way she acted are typically clear evidence. Now call me crazy but, if only I had a video camera you would have all thought the same.

So what happened? I got the nerve to tell CJ I liked her and her exact words were "I'm flattered but, I'm not gay". I said "REALLY". Talk about rejected. I really thought I had a chance and damn good one too. However, I later realized CJ had told a couple of her buddies about it and all the snickering started. Honestly I was kind of happy she told people because that meant I didn't have to. My closes friends knew but, no one outside of that circle so she definitely opened some doors for me.

Now back to rejection being deceiving, after I was rejected I thought that was the end of that and just moved on. It was the end of the school year and I was parting with friends, everything was all good…right? Not so much. In walks CJ, the party is still cool; I'm hanging with my girls. Later that night, I'm posted against the walk pretty much by myself, she walks up to me and just start grinding doesn't say a word and just walks away. Now WTF is up with that, luckily one of my girlfriends turned around and saw it too. So what did that really mean about her? Till this day I still don't know. I'm not one to play games so I never spoke to her about it. I figured it she was, in fact, interested she was going to have to get up and open her mouth same way I did. But have you ever heard of a straight girl grinding on her lesbian crush that she told she wasn’t gay? So back to my point rejection can clearly be deceiving.

To be a Muslim Lesbian or Not to be?

Finding a person you can truly connect with is one of the most difficult things to accomplish. It takes a desire on both ends and a want to build a relationship. While some of us are looking to find that "special connection" and someone to fall in love with others may have a different agenda. So what is the other agenda?

I know a person personally who's agenda is definitely down a different path, in fact she doesn't believe in LOVE. Honestly when she told me I was completely shocked and actually pretty sad. I'm engaged to be married to my partner and can't think of anyone else I could love more than her. Well I think I found a slight factor in why she does not believe in love, she's Muslim. And before anyone say's thats not true just hear me out, because I'm not trying to say its not possible but, rather for her it's increasingly more difficult.

In the Muslim culture arranged marriages are the "norm,"even for those in the United States. My friend, for all intensive purpose will be named *Natasha, is a Muslim who was born overseas, but raised in the States. She was also apart of an arranged marriage at the age of 17, now divorced. Now call me crazy but, at 17 all of was thinking of was who the next person I was going on a date with, definitely not marrying a man I had never had a conversation with. So I'm not going to give you a drag out story of what I really think of that, better yet form your own opinion. It's a culture that I can admit I have a lack of knowledge in but, I still have respect for it.

Getting down the the nitty gritty, I decided since she seemed to think love did not exist, I personally thought she just hadn't found it in the right person and therefore needed to at least have the experience! By experience I mean be in the company of women who love women! Maybe she just hadn't been treated with love by a person to know that it even existed. So we went out to a lesbian club in NYC. I really wanted her to let loose and just be comfortable,

Yes of course it started out a little awkward as my fiancee came along and another couple, but after a couple of rough songs and a couple of drinks she was ready to go! If you don't think love exist then how do you know where to find it. Let me tell you she was definitely up for having a good time and no I was not trying to hook her up, I simply wanted her to escape herself for the night and do whatever she felt was right. She did! Before we knew it she was dancing with a friend of mine and handling her own! She's even got the nerve to tip the dancer, yes this meant touching. All I could hear from her by the end of the night was "I had a great time!"

Ultimately I think I accomplished my goal! Not sure if she's ever had that great of a time with a guy but, I would be interested to see what happens during round 2!

Coming Soon Round 2!

What's the first thing you notice about a Woman?

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